Monthly Archives: November 2018

The Long Journey

photo-1534330207526-8e81f10ec6fcThe journey of Hope House has been a long one, and we are still in the early stages.

We have experienced deep loss. We have sat in pits of disorienting darkness. We have felt the joy of being surrounded of friends and have been annoyed by their presence at times. We’ve seen sunrises and butterflies that remind us of life and hope. We’ve wrestled with doubts, anger, and faith. We’ve prayed, we’ve cursed, we’ve laughed, we’ve cried.

We’ve felt horribly alone, even when people have been around. We’ve pushed away people we love. We’ve blamed ourselves. And we’ve glimpsed beauty among ashes.

And we’ve dreamed. We’ve dreamed of a place where parents like us can step away from their everyday lives and retreat to a beautiful setting to relax and heal. They can’t step away from their grief; we know it is always present. But we can provide a brief respite as parents and families struggle into a new normal.

We invite you to partner with us. It is a long journey, but could you walk a few steps with us? We hope to break ground in 2019. To find out more and get involved, visit our campaign page.

Thank you.

Every Dollar Helps

Our campaign goal seems huge. Unimaginable. Unattainable.

But when you’ve struggled through the grief of a child’s death, when a dark day is right behind or in front of you, when you’ve walked through unimaginable pain and considered unattainable hope, facing a large fundraising goal doesn’t seem as daunting.

It might feel like a big dream, but when reaching out to help people who are going through some of the same pain you’ve experienced, wanting to help them and walk beside them, any pursuit, even if it seems challenging, seems worthwhile.

That’s where we are as Hope House founders, board members, campaign team members, and friends and family. We lean into the future, knowing many people are hurting and have a need for refuge, a getaway with family as they heal.

Hope House of Central Illinois will hopefully become a reality in 2019. We have the land and many volunteers. We want to break ground soon. Please help us.

Every dollar helps.

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Walking the Circle of Grief

photo-1484973768669-7fb6b5451095I have walked the circle of grief around many friends.

It’s not a journey I’d ever wish for them or myself, yet I was honored every time I have walked it.

Walking the circle is being close by, accessible, while giving space to my friends. Being available but not hovering.

Walking the circle is being close enough to feel the scorching heat of the pain. It is unimaginable. It is sharing a burden. It is seeing friends gasp for air. It’s inviting moments of laughter, knowing tears will often be close behind.

Walking the circle is doing difficult stuff. Making phone calls, picking up funeral clothes, sitting in uncomfortable positions beside a bed or chair for hours, holding hands, wiping snot, going through clothes and toys that will never be used (or used again).

Walking the circle now includes the opportunity to serve Hope House of Central Illinois. My friends founded this organization, and I do what things I can do to help them. It is a continuance of walking the circle.

You have likely walked the circle, too. You might still be walking it.

There are many of us. And now we get to come together.

We all walk the circle around parents and families who are grieving the death of a child. Hope House is on the verge of being built and welcoming those families. For more information on how to get involved, click on the campaign tab of our website.

Thank you.